Wouldn’t it be better to take a few months and think it over clearly instead of spending years in relationships that don’t work?
In this case, the problem is “You’d like to find a husband or wife”, so the first thing to consider is whether you actually want to be married.
After all, if you have no desire to actually commit to anyone, no amount of searching will do you any good.
It might take you a few relationships to get your list right.
This once again points to the importance of having an accurate idea of what you want!
With every success or “failure” in this area, something new and interesting comes up.
Please be aware though that I am currently in love, so my analysis may be somewhat biased.
Additionally, I am male, so this will be from a male perspective (but it should be very applicable to women too since the underlying basis is about relationships in general).
Whenever you have a problem, it is always a good idea to consider what you want first.
Do you want someone to spend the rest of your life with?
Do you want an activity partner that you have sex with once in a while (this is not necessarily separate from the person you want to spend your life with)? Keep in mind that “being married” is just a label, like “dating”, or “girlfriend”.
Fill in the blank: This is what marriage means to me: When you’re clear on what you want, we can take a look at what you can do to accomplish that! Does your definition of marriage require an actual wedding? Can you imagine the emotional pain and legal headaches?