With casual encounters there is a bit of a pressure on both parties to do something because that’s what’s expected of them, and if one says no it can become an issue (psychologically speaking – from “Why didn’t they want to sleep with me?” to the far more dangerous “I’m horny so we’re doing it”).Every gasp, every moan, everything you do to each other comes with this wonder of discovery.
Some people thrive being single and sustaining their urges through one night stands and casual hook-ups.
Others of course find security in being in a relationship, allowing them to share something long-lasting with another whilst being open and honest about their sexual needs.
It’s played for laughs of course but there is a valuable message there about exploring who you are sexually, and in an open and trusting relationship you can explore that with someone.
You’d have to be a far more liberal person then me to pull out the whips and gags on a one night stand and expect your partner to be totally down with that.
At my regular job I’ve developed something of a reputation for only being into and dating girls of a certain type, cute (typically) shorter girls with big-rimmed glasses who love chatting about nerdy shit.
Thankfully, that type of girl seems really into me (one once said I reminded her of her father – we aren’t on speaking terms anymore).Done in supportive, safe and consensual manner, a one-time hook-up can be the perfect thing to blow away the cobwebs and feel just the best.I’m not exaggerating when I say that with a one night stand comes a massive ego-boost which can really help in other areas of your life.” that you can get when you’re sleeping with someone for the first few times.Knowing that someone doesn’t enjoy oral sex or a certain position is as important as knowing what they do enjoy.The ability to choose not to have sex is also a freedom you can have in relationship.