Looks can only last so long (we all age), but personality lasts a lifetime. The fact is, no matter how shallow it sounds, physical attraction is important in a relationship.
That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t date someone unless they're a male model…
It’s important and I do agree with the above g URLS, however when I first met my boyfriend, I wasn’t necessarily physically attracted to him.
Well I did, but because that's really about as far as I can go in that direction, here's another one: Relationships are like any fire (I can hear at least two boy bands warming up their vocal cords as I write this), and physical attraction is that kindling.
Twigs and leaves and stuff (boobies, prominent jawlines, or whatever it is that you're in to) are all hugely important, but not essential, to get any meaningful fire going.
So I believe even though you’re not physically attracted to this guy, I bet if you give it time, you might actually become more attracted.
In my opinion, the personality of an individual makes them better looking.
These are important issues affecting the happiness of millions of wonderful people, and we don’t help things by getting over-sensitive. Some like redheads while others think the gingers are positively hideous. You remember those Enzyte commercials featuring Bob and his really happy wife? In some cases, a particular proclivity is a preference, while in others the presence of a quality (or its absence) might be a deal-breaker. It’s a big plus if she has musical taste that’s compatible with mine and if she likes jam bands or Justin Bieber we’re going to have to set some ground rules. If a guy is a physical 5, but once you get to know him he’s an 8, then the service has to find a way to present the 8 to potential matches. If it were me, she wouldn’t have to be Olivia Munn (although if she were that would be okay). You wouldn’t have to think she was pretty, my friends wouldn’t have to think she was hot, and it wouldn’t matter what she rated, on average, if you polled 500 men between the ages of 35 and 54.
Here’s the basic proposition: we’re all attracted to some and not attracted to others. This means we must, in some cases, trick the lizard brain, which cares about that physical number, long enough to get our higher brains invested in the rest of the human across the table. It would only matter that she was in the ballpark – my ballpark – had no deal-breakers, and felt the same about me.
It is one of our most powerful mate selection criteria.
Much of e Harmony’s philosophy regarding relationships has to do with placing physical attraction lower on our list of selection criteria, because when looking at “long-term” relationship success, physical attraction doesn’t rank very high.
I’m interested to hear what you think, and thanks for tagging along on my little windmill-tilting expedition.
As human beings, we are made to feel physical attraction.
If a guy doesn’t look exactly how you want him to but his personality is amazing, you’re going to find him attractive no matter what.