She was smart, she was sexy, she was financially independent – and she had no time to give to me.
At the time, when I was 33, I blamed her for this, thinking that if she liked me more, she’d make a greater effort. What I didn’t know then is that kids suck up every second of free time you’ve got, and that you have to work extra hard to create me-time, much less couple-time.
I’ve been in a terrible relationship before and honestly now, I’d rather be alone than with the wrong guy.
Ultimately, all I wanted from that single mom was to hook up, because that’s all I felt she could give me.
Whether it’s fair or not is debatable, but that’s how I felt at the time.
Instead of dating cute 34-year-old single guys who don’t have kids, how about you date cute 43-year-old guys who are in the exact same spot in life, who understand your predicament, who have obligations of their own, and who will be delighted to meet a woman who gets THEM.
You shouldn’t quit because single men your age want sex and more time. So I stay away from that for the same reasons that men stay away from women with children..
Well, let me clarify: I have no shortage of “dates”. I have an outgoing personality and seem to be asked out a lot…
I guess I must be in reasonable shape because NOBODY can guess I’ve even had four kids, or that I’m even 34 (I get asked out by guys in their early 20s- I feel like I should read them a story and tuck them into bed… we usually go on a few dates, everything is going wonderful… I’m not talking about church bells, but just to an actual relationship. I am sick of being treated like a piece of ass, and treated like I must be desperate because I have kids.As a screenwriter, I don’t know if you live in LA or not, but this is a town where people don’t grow up for a really long time.I got married at 35 and had kids at 37 and 39 and I was ahead of most of my friends. I was married for ten years, have four beautiful boys under 9 and have a very fulfilling and successful career.My life is happy, but I really would love to share it with someone…So instead of giving up on the whole thing – which, as you know – is incredibly shortsighted, given that you have 50 more years on this earth, how about you change focus?