Superficial, just for sex, full of morons: these are just some of the critiques levelled at dating apps.
But my philosophy – and I literally wrote the book on Tinder – is that if you are meeting people then there is the potential to meet someone special.
I came across a guy who was extremely cute, looked like he was a ton of fun and seemed genuine… It really made me laugh so I took him up on his offer.
I went on Tinder after an eight-year relationship ended. Shirtless selfies – swipe left as fast as possible.
I hadn’t really dated as an adult and thought it was a great way to learn; Tinder required little effort, unlike websites that asked you to write a big profile, and you’d chat for weeks before getting asked out. I wanted to date people with a good sense of humor, so I looked for guys with a description or pictures that made me giggle.
I was mortified, so I blocked them—it was the first thing I could think to do." -Veronica, 22"After chatting on Tinder for a couple of weeks, I decided to grab drinks with this guy at a local bar. I'm sorry, but implying I'm a prostitute is going to get you nowhere." -Emily, 22"Once a guy insisted that I tell him my SAT score when I was talking about my job in college admissions.
I was a few beers and a couple hours in when I decided to call it a night. I thought that was super weird and didn't want to, but he kept asking so I finally told him.
Every day he charted his height, weight, what he ate that day, what he weighed, what he read, watched, who he talked to, etc. When I found him on Facebook later that night—after we hooked up—I realized he was cheating on his girlfriend with me. " -Ellen, 22"A group of us went to Miami for spring break, where we used Tinder as a way to figure out where to go each night.
One of my matches, let's call him Alex, seemed nice and helpful—but I never actually met up with him in person.
Haven't online-dated since." -Christen, 27"A year or two ago, I went out with a guy who actually was very nice, charming (British), and he took me on three dates.
Before telling me—during sex—that he had a girlfriend.
I found out about it because I made some sort of inappropriate joke, and he followed up his laugh with, ' You're about to lose a bunch of people in my office a bunch of money.' I made it about 30 minutes until he started pointing out specific people in the bar and telling me what sort of plans he was going to make with them for us (some many months in advance).
I went into the bathroom, called my roommate, and had her come get me.