But simple companionship and connectedness is often the meat and bones of a relationship – and you still have to prepare yourself for the absence of his or her warmth, smile and all the wonders of non-verbal communication.
When a boyfriend and I were separated for three months, I drove him absolutely crazy because I needed – non-negotiably – to talk to him each day.
and I was sure he'd been hit by a bus and that's why he couldn't get to the phone. What had actually happened was that the nine-hour time difference got in the way. Remember this: missing a day (36 hours in my case) does not indicate relationshipial jeopardy.
If you need less, try to be a little more communicative than you might tend to be. For instance, if he wants to talk daily and you don't, perhaps you can commit to sending a one-line loving e-mail each day, just so he knows you're thinking of him.
E-mail is a wonderful invention for separated loved ones and is particularly useful in helping to avoid transferring your IRA directly to AT&T.
Or are you just trying to maintain the relationship as it stands now, perhaps in a different place?
Recognize that you can't compare a long-distance relationship to one based on physical proximity.
Every moment does not have to be perfect or perfectly scheduled. I love him and do want a future with him but I am finding it very hard to make a decision to move in with him because of the constant argument. im not dating this guy yet and we love each other but because im still studying and he is a full time dad of a beautiful baby boy its getting hard for us becuase there are so many other people involved in our lives and we dont live that far from each other but it is impossible for us to see each other for a few years.
Conversely, understand that the perfection of weekend getaways likely won't continue once a normal relationship is possible. And using some of these tools will stop "separation pressures" that might prevent you from getting there. im scared im going to lose him because he is finding it a little hard to trust me becuase what the mother of his son did to him.
When you are together, expect pressure (whether it's because you have issues to discuss or not). He came to visit me seven months after because he was finishing his PHd.
Don't spend so much time agonizing over and planning out your time in concert that you forget to enjoy it. I did, but before I went I told him this visit is for a meet and to know him. Now we argue a lot because I am not at all time consistent, which I try to do most of the time. Im in a new LDR,i met my boyfriend 3 months ago,we were so much inlove,i knew he loves me and never doubted that for a second but we leave in two different cities,hes so frustrated about us being apart in a way that I dont know if he still loves me,he recently told me hes thinking of letting me go because its taking forever for us to be together but we worked through that but since then he has changed,we dont communicate the way we use to anymore hes distant,hes trying but we are totally disconnected I Love him but im confused please help,i feel like giving up.
how do i help make him belive in me and know i believe in him.
we both know we love each other and we are doing all the right things to make it work but hes just not trusting me that much what do i do HELP?
On the other hand, be careful about relying on e-mail to resolve conflicts.