In other words, knowingly sends me matches that are probably not realistic for me to pursue.When I have emailed some of those guys, I never hear back.
They have told me of their frustration with lack of responses.What interesting is that younger guys ( early 40s) vs those my own age seem more interested.Ive asked some of the guys my age who have contacted me as an “exception” about their success with their age range search.It is often 10-20 years younger than them and these are very “average” appearing guys .It’s difficult to meet large numbers of men that way, but I’m starting to feel like my chance of making a non age-biased connection with a guy is only out in the real world.
And the real-world opportunities can be few and far between. I can’t disagree with anything you’ve observed about online dating and age. So here are the facts: Older men have more options than older women (online and in real life) because they can usually date somewhat younger.Most people who say they’ve taken my advice have only taken a few pieces of my advice.Which is like saying you’re going on a diet by cutting out sugar, but continuing to eat large portions of fried foods.I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself.The potential matches that the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look at the age-range that those men desire, (usually 35-50) I often move past them, knowing I can’t compete with women in their desired range, even though many of those men are as much as 5-8 years older than me! I’ve noticed after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the response I get on has dropped to almost nothing.