I've also said that you can't be in an LTR without paying the price of admission, and I've said that a lot more often.
If not getting oral at home is the price of admission you're willing to pay to be with your wife, and if allowing you to get oral elsewhere is the price of admission she's willing to pay to be with you, then Godspeed, IWFU, and tip the sex workers you patronize and speak up to fight the stigma against doing sex work and hiring sex workers.
Or should I just go ahead and find myself another jack-off buddy? I recently spent a wonderful weekend with a young woman from out of town who identifies as queer and poly.Craving Uncut Masculine Sri Lankan Another jack-off buddy? Being the curious guy I am, I had her explain what these things meant to her.For one example: An ethically nonmonogamous woman fucks the boyfriend/husband she loves and other guys she doesn't; a poly woman has two (or more) guys she both loves and fucks.I have two complaints: one with the world and one with you.She is very mono and has no interest in going outside the marriage for sex.
My quarrel with you has to do with your oft-repeated advice that people should break things off with partners who don't perform oral sex.Anyway, I was really looking forward to him jacking me off and vice versa.But when I arrived, he said he was only interested in me giving him a massage and then a handjob.My problem with the world is that it seems to think it is possible to embrace the rights of sex workers and still stigmatize the men who employ them.I am in a happy monogamish marriage, and I enjoy a very good, vanilla-but-bordering-on-tantric sex life with my wife. Shameless chicks don't hide their beautiful shapes and dirty desires at all.