When you come after him while he’s pulling away, you are telling him you’ll accept sub-par treatment.
They had fun and shared common interests and values. “No,” she said, “I feel a need to get away and have time just by myself to relax.” Is this relationship going down the tubes? It’s much more likely that it’s alive and well…thriving and growing. Too often we get into a relationship and it’s all or nothing.
One day he said he’d like to make plans for an upcoming weekend.
If a guy sees that you have that reaction to him feeling like he needs some space, it will send him running to the hills. Have you been asking yourself what you did that made him create distance? When we get close to a man, we want that closeness to continue the same way so we feel safe and secure in the relationship.
Now is the perfect opportunity to spend time on yourself.
Will you continue to be the same fun, cool girl he’s been hanging out with? He wants to see how needy you are and how much you’ll want him to alter his life.
Many women fail the test and – in the man’s mind – confirm his suspicions that all women want their men to stop hanging out with their friends or engaging in “guy time.” This scares him and is often what prevents him from wanting a serious relationship.” We tell ourselves stories that take us down the road of feeling rejected, abandoned and disapproved of.Or, we make ourselves wrong for having a need for space. What if we looked deep within and understood that we, too, need ‘space and air’ in our relationship to increase our enjoyment of life and each other? We have such fun together we forget the pleasure of others’ company. We enjoy each other so much we want to spend every minute together.Knowing how to give space in a relationship can help you balance your together time and your own individuality.