Love is created and maintained by the process of meaningful communications (including validating accurate perceptions and invalidating inaccurate perceptions of interpersonal reality). Additionally, love is highly individualistically based. Second, it does not help heal the emotional pains of some online daters." Please step into the 21st century of easy online communication and personal mobility. I would suggest introspection and psychotherapy, not any kind of dating.
The research findings can be summarized as followings:1.Online daters tend to fill in the information gaps with positive qualities in a potential partner; on the other hand, everyone wants to make the self appear as attractive as possible to potential dates by exaggerating the self desirable traits.2.Some people believe that recent research on online dating/matching sheds a new light on understanding attraction, love, and romantic relationships.I argue that, however, although the internet has helped few find romantic relationships and marriages, the research has overlooked various defects and problems associated with this type of "contact." I will examine a couple of them.The service users preferred similarity on a variety of (mainly demographic) categories (including child preferences, education, and physical features like height, age, race, religion, political views, and smoking).
It is accurate to say that the research findings showed some behavior and attitudes of the online daters who joined the internet community with different motivations, expectations and backgrounds, but it is inaccurate to assume the behavior and attitudes reflect real interpersonal attractions.(Although online daters may be able to exchange messages after they pass each other's initial screening on the basis of evaluating the category-based information, the process is the opposite of the interaction-based attraction).The meaningful interactions depend on two factors: (1) the right opportunities (the right time, place, persons, and further communications) and, (2) the right mind (absence of biases about the self and others). Although psychological research on attraction has identified several variables, such as disclosure reciprocity (revealing intimate aspects of oneself to others), mutual eye gazing, mutual reward, similarity and physical attractiveness, these variables are worthless unless people who possess the attributes and tendencies have the opportunities to implement them to the targets of attraction.My problem is the majority of the people I know hanging around on dating sites are being ran through ie: experimenting with god knows who after being on so many dates.I had a friend who went through numerous dates in a year...slept with some 20 men on these sites before finding her "boyfriend" (who just happens to have a very nice job) it does not look like someone she would necessarily be with, and she certainly does not look all that happy in her situation. How does meeting someone online actually effect later relationships?