It can be spread from one partner to another even when there are NO noticeable symptoms on the part of either partner.
Since many people engage in oral sex without the use of condoms or dental dams, getting genital herpes from oral sex is increasingly common.
When symptoms occur soon after a person is infected, they tend to be severe.
They may start as small blisters that eventually break open and produce raw, painful sores that scab and heal over within a few weeks.
He is someone I've always felt loved me enough to protect me and keep me safe. The thing I am struggling so deeply with is that I want to have a partner, a totally exclusive partner, not someone who is married and "allowed" to be with another woman.
It has never been my desire to be in a relationship like this.
However, I also feel that the pertinent thing to keep in mind here is that the symptoms you are having are not "normal" (without trying to make you feel "abnormal").
According to Web MD.com: You may never notice symptoms from an HSV infection.Communicating About Herpes Examples Getting Informed Avoiding Infection Building Trust with Your Partner Community Q&A It's likely that you will date someone with herpes at some point in your life.Herpes is common: about 90% of adults have been exposed to the HSV-1 virus, while roughly one in six people within the age range of 14-49 have genital herpes caused by the HSV-2 infection.None seem to be anywhere as severe as you've described and for that reason, Todd suggested that you may want to consider seeing a specialist: an immunologist.To address your question about not wanting to pass this painful virus onto someone else, I completely understand.On the other hand, you might notice symptoms within a few days to a couple of weeks after the initial contact.