None seem to be anywhere as severe as you've described and for that reason, Todd suggested that you may want to consider seeing a specialist: an immunologist.To address your question about not wanting to pass this painful virus onto someone else, I completely understand.
Mary, I feel confident that once you get your symptoms under control you will be able to release the trauma of this painful time in your life.
This will then allow you to see herpes for what it really is: an unfortunate occurrence that can be mildly inconvenient at times.
But, now that I have this virus, and I am fully aware of the impact it has had on my body (I've had painful symptoms non-stop for months!
), my question is, how can I possibly put anyone that I love and care about in this position?
I know that makes little difference to the reality of your situation -- that it changes nothing -- but in some way, I hope you can feel the huge hug I am giving you right now. According to "Most people with genital herpes have infrequent, mild, or no noticeable symptoms, and 90 per cent of them are totally unaware that they even have it." And that, according to is because "surprisingly, most doctors do NOT include a blood test for herpes even when they are testing their patients for other common STDs." So, even if you and your partner wait to be tested before having sex -- if you haven't asked for the specific herpes blood test -- there is STILL the risk that one or both of you have the HSV1 or HSV2 virus and don't know it. Statistically 60-80 per cent of adults carry the HSV1 virus (in the form of cold sores) whereas 14-20 per cent carry the HS2 virus on the genitals.
According to Dating With (DWH.org) about 45-60 million Americans have genital herpes. According to DWH.org: HSV1 has become the cause of about 30 per cent of new genital herpes infections -- usually spread via oral sex.However, I also feel that the pertinent thing to keep in mind here is that the symptoms you are having are not "normal" (without trying to make you feel "abnormal").According to Web MD.com: You may never notice symptoms from an HSV infection.I have many reasons for engaging in this kind of relationship (a very long story) but believe me, it's not my long term choice.I want an exclusive and totally loving relationship with a man who adores me and I him.On the other hand, you might notice symptoms within a few days to a couple of weeks after the initial contact.