This is something I do on the side away from my family and friends. Not saying every relationship involved it, but I never had a bad one that did. It's certainly the kind of thing that can scare a guy off...
But I also feel if I meet a man I am not going to start off lying about what I do or where I am going. I can't say I'm afraid of much, this is no exception. my advice would be not to mention it up front and introduce it when the guy's already got to know you a bit.
In the mind of the submissive man they are not strange at all, quite the opposite. One thing they crave is to give of themselves to their partner and be recognized for it.
This dynamic is huge and causes many men to chase dominate women in the bdsm lifestyle.The truth is that they secretly desire their partner to be the dominate partner and to feel safe in their submission to them.This doesn't mean that I am not willing to PLAY along and bark like a dog, or do what ever she wants, but it would only be pretend. A woman might be able to "dominate" me, by using her charm, sexuality, wit, and political or social powers.However, she would have to have a considerable amount of influence in society, be very sexy, smart in order to do so. What you're saying is that you do BDSM on the side. It doesn't even matter if there is no physical contact at all. You clearly are very open-minded about such things, and you are looking for an extremely open-minded man. It's my nature to dominate and "call the shots" in most areas of the relationship. You're looking for a normal guy that isn't into BDSM nor wanting to be one of your submissives but cool with you doing it with other men "on the side"? This is more insane of a daydream wish than BBWs wanting normal men to find them desireable. Possibly, the ones who run for the hills are insecure and weak. Don't let your view of men be poisoned by a few bad examples.He will really not want it to be a secret, but it is. He needs to understand her expectations and how to make her happy. For in that scenario he is free to feel he is trying to satisfy his partner, and even if he falls short she cares enough to stick to rules and not abandon him emotionally mentally or physically.
In this world he feels connected to his partner and at her will. Submissive men would rather be spanked and feel all is right in the relationship than to be left wondering where he stands. It is somewhat childish in thought but extremely simple in the submissive mind. Most submissives are humble to some degree and desire to be more humble.
Like I stated if it is not their thing then I would not ask them to particapate. The things that can be terrifying and off-putting in a stranger become acceptable and maybe even fun in someone you've gotten to know. To be blunt, I am not at all "scared" of dominate women, because I do not believe that the great majority of women have the realistic capability to dominate me physically.
They can wear any kind of fancy leather, carry any kind of whips and chains; but if I do not want to PLAY that game, it is not going to be played.
To the point of anger and resentment of his partner.
He craves an outlet to make things right again in his mind. they will settle for negative attention if that is all they can get.
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