Dating stops being this anxiety-producing stage of a relationship where you’re constantly worrying about messing things up and becomes a phase of your life that you can actually enjoy. The more men you see, the more aware you are that they’re not all going to be your boyfriend someday.With that pressure gone, you can really see a guy for who he is, and you realize very quickly whether this will be just a fling or if it has the potential for more. So much of dating is girls complaining about not being able to find a guy.Grandma's concern was about weighting your options instead of driving yourself nuts and obsessing over just one man. "If you are looking for a serious relationship, then you should absolutely be dating more than one man at once...
So when we do finally find one, we hold on to him with all we’ve got despite the fact that he might not even be that good of a catch.
When you’re seeing three or five guys, you’re not so worried about losing one. We can get too caught up in wanting the ultimate romance that we forget to have a good time — which is all you should ever expect from someone early on.
Even if you're looking to keep it casual, "then by all means, also try out the variety and the spice of life." Steinberg does not suggest sleeping with more than one man at once because of added drama and STDs, but she advises all of her clients to go out on dates with multiple people—until they find someone that becomes particularly sparkly and special to them.
Emily, 28, who was my grandmother's worst nightmare—a woman who became fixated on each new flavor of the month without keeping perspective.
Know what you want ahead of time so you aren't getting too invested. You should have a personal list."Ladies love lists, but Wygant says he's talking about a different kind.
"Most women make a list of what they want the guy to be, not how they (personally) want to feel."Somewhere between her wedding fantasies and serial dating, Emily was able to do some soul-searching.Forget about your “type” and get to know anyone who sparks your interest.You could end up going snowboarding or drag racing or whatever weird thing the guy is into.Having other options helps you relax a little bit and let your guard down.You can be silly and weird without a fear of the guy leaving because if he does, it’s on the next one. Dating different guys means getting a taste of different lifestyles.It’s like when there’s a massive sale and you try everything on and then don’t know what you like anymore. “Then I think out of respect for yourself and the men, you should tell the others you’re not interested.” In fact, communication is key because people have different expectations when it comes to dating and what is ok for one person might be very wrong for another.