Remember this focal point - that your goal is to build a meaningful, enduring relationship. It's understandable for you to be concerned about having the social skills to be able to relate to a woman you're dating.
Others date casually for a long time until they decide that they want to focus on developing a meaningful relationship that will lead to marriage.They may begin their adult lives in a location where there are few Jewish men or women to date.And I have a better idea of what has been holding me back in the past. The problem is I am 20 years behind everyone else in terms of experience. In addition, a high percentage of women close to my age are married or divorced. My big worry is that women will shy away from me because of my lack of experience. " Should I admit my lack of dating experience to the women I date, or should I try to hide it? Many people whose life experiences are similar to yours give up on themselves, and get locked into a life of disappointment and under-achievement.Not only did you not give up, but you pushed yourself to learn from your career mistakes and find a job that was a good match for you, move to a city that was more compatible with your own personal style, and work on your social skills so that you could relate better to people.They may have to resolve any of a number of personal issues.
Or like you, they may be late bloomers in life, who take a little longer to come into their own.
But alas, I had tremendous problems getting and keeping a job.
The only jobs I could get were almost always temporary positions.
The rest of the population may believe they are either technologically challenged or socially challenged, but it is usually just a matter of needing to learn these skills differently.
They may benefit from more intensive instruction that other people, but eventually they pick up on the basics.
An adult who has worked hard to address these feelings and to believe in himself, as you have done, can nevertheless experience periodic episodes of self-doubt and personal disappointment.