This is the “hot” portion of hot and cold, and you can probably guess what happens next…
Let’s say you’ve been dating for a while, and you think this guy is really into you because of all the mushy intense things he’s been telling you.
They don’t even realize they’re doing it – it’s just how they relate to women. Guys like that aren’t really worth talking about, because they’re pretty rare.
Eventually, you start to feel the same way – and you let him know that yeah, you feel strongly about him too.In the insecure guy’s mind, he’s achieved his goal.The most common question asked in her popular Facebook group is how do I act, what do I say when he turns back on again. The term luring with honey is brought up often in this situation. You just take his call or texts sweetly and warmly and then just have other plans. It just tells him you are the doormat that he can walk on when he feels like it.You allow it to happen over and over and he has no reason to step it up.When a guy lays it on really thick at the beginning of a relationship, saying things like “I can’t believe how much I like you after only knowing you for this long…” or “I can’t believe how much I miss you right now,” when you just started dating, he doesn’t really mean what he’s saying.
He’s feeling strong emotions about you – but it’s not that he deeply misses you or that he likes you a “scary amount.” exactly how much you like him.
I think we have all been there with these men that blow hot and cold. If he is often in a bad mood you don’t want him anyway.
I know I sure have made my share of excuses for these men. When you are crazy about someone, do you really treat them coldly? How do you treat someone you really care about and are thinking of building something lasting and meaningful with? Any man that I am acting hot and cold with is a man that I am not that invested in.
It can also mean that I am hung up on someone else and he is just a space filler for me. I will also blow cold when I sense you want something from me: something I’m not prepared or at liberty to give to you. Be a high-value woman by cultivating these seven traits and you will always know what a guy’s intentions are through his actions.
So the hot and cold can be a sign for your constant leaning forward or he’s just not there yet or he’s plain uninterested. Dealing with a hot and cold man is easy if you follow Katarina’s teachings on leaning back. You don’t accuse him of anything or attack or react. Falling at a hot and cold man’s feet will not endear you to him.
You have dates more often, you’re in contact more frequently, and it feels like you’re heading straight for a serious relationship.