A person with commitment phobia need not display every one of the following symptoms but the more symptoms he or she displays the more likely it is that he or she suffers from the condition.
It's a miracle that some of these people can even recover their past hurts.All I can say is that CPs need patience and understanding. They are people who have been severely hurt by others negligence and these are real pains that take time to repair.But they will prefer not to say with certainty that they can make it. If you listen carefully, you will hear them use ‘probably’, ‘maybe’, ‘probably not’, ‘I might’, ‘I might not’ and the like much more than other people.If asked when they will be home from work, they won’t say they will be home by 5.They may have no problem buying a house or a car or getting a dog.
Their fear usually is connected with making a promise to another person.
For one that is quite extreme and there are very specific guidelines for different mental illness.
Commitment phobia like all phobias is a learned behavior of fear.
Namely that people will continue to hurt you in ways that you have been tangibly hurt in the past.
This includes bullying, domestic violence by a previous partner or family members, workplace abuse, rape, microagressions, cheating, and numerous other incidents.
Instead they will say that they probably will be home by 5. People with commitment phobia have a need for intimacy like everyone else.