But you want a low-cost investment that allows for conversation, so you can get to know each other without too much pressure.
Less pressure, knowing them better, feeling more comfortable; everything runs better between the two of you.I certainly don't disagree with any of this, but I would like to point out that people who aren't experienced with dating tend to struggle most with showing interest/flirting/being romantic and other "spark" things because these are things you don't do with platonic friends. The conversation will be off, maybe you get gas halfway through the date, maybe you'll say something that just ruins your chances with them somehow.Sometimes a bad date was something within your control, and sometimes it isn't.It's going to happen; accept that before you start.It's something you can fail to stoke, I guess, but if you go into a date eager for conversation and curious about the other person, that should be a good enough mindset to see if rapport is there.
So my big arc on Ok Cupid was going from a "please like me" mindset to a "let's see if we're a good match" mindset.Posts that have few relevant answers within the first hour, and posts that are not appropriate for the [Serious] tag will be removed. Thanks for your cooperation and enjoy the discussion!"I better arrive early..not too early because if she's there already then we'll start our date early and we'll run out of things to talk about early and I'll end up home alone again at "How you make friends, you make significant others the same way.Stick to coffee or a quick drink at a time when it won't feel like either of you wasted your evening or day. My favorite first date times are late morning on Saturday/Sunday or after work on a weekday.Leave the flowers and grand gestures at home until you get to know them better.Read: Treat/see them as a human being, find people you have things in common with, make an effort to spend time with them.