Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which hurt us the most as children.” – Psychology Today So games used to work on me because 1) I had unresolved daddy issues and 2) At the tender age of 20, I was trying to figure out who I was and to top it off, I was ridden with insecurity and a low sense of self-worth.
But somewhere in between the passing of a decade, something changed. I became independent, confident, and started to value my self-worth. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person.
care what a cute boy thinks of me, it consumes me sometimes.And I genuinely have to check myself, and forcibly block the absolutely insane and ludicrous emotional fantasies.I will gladly be vilified for calling out the bullshit and ringing the bell on a deadened and disillusioned generation. When I was in my early twenties, if a guy acted aloof, called back only sometimes and showed minimal interest, I would get hooked.You can switch the genders in this post and most points would likely still apply.
Or, read this post on “The 11 Differences Between Dating a Girl vs a Woman“.I went through hardships and heartbreaks and picked myself back up which built my strength and courage. And as a woman, you are attracted to very different things than you are as a girl. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life.Instead of relying on beauty as my source of empowerment, I focused on basing my empowerment on my intelligence, successes, values, contributions to the world and how I helped others. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up.And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a man, or a mere boy. *To clarify, when I’m referring to “games” I mean mind games.If you are a girl (lack independence, are ruled by insecurity, lack self-respect, throw tantrums, have princess syndrome, don’t have strong values or boundaries and can’t hold yourself on your own) then expect that you will attract only boys.