Dating an aloof person

Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which hurt us the most as children.” – Psychology Today So games used to work on me because 1) I had unresolved daddy issues and 2) At the tender age of 20, I was trying to figure out who I was and to top it off, I was ridden with insecurity and a low sense of self-worth.

But somewhere in between the passing of a decade, something changed. I became independent, confident, and started to value my self-worth. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person.

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care what a cute boy thinks of me, it consumes me sometimes.And I genuinely have to check myself, and forcibly block the absolutely insane and ludicrous emotional fantasies.I will gladly be vilified for calling out the bullshit and ringing the bell on a deadened and disillusioned generation. When I was in my early twenties, if a guy acted aloof, called back only sometimes and showed minimal interest, I would get hooked.You can switch the genders in this post and most points would likely still apply.

Or, read this post on “The 11 Differences Between Dating a Girl vs a Woman“.I went through hardships and heartbreaks and picked myself back up which built my strength and courage. And as a woman, you are attracted to very different things than you are as a girl. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life.Instead of relying on beauty as my source of empowerment, I focused on basing my empowerment on my intelligence, successes, values, contributions to the world and how I helped others. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up.And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a man, or a mere boy. *To clarify, when I’m referring to “games” I mean mind games.If you are a girl (lack independence, are ruled by insecurity, lack self-respect, throw tantrums, have princess syndrome, don’t have strong values or boundaries and can’t hold yourself on your own) then expect that you will attract only boys.