A few years ago, I started cracking jokes regularly about hot dads.Then when I met a charming, handsome dude with good taste in music and tacos at a secret Santa vinyl swap party last winter, I started dating one.
This can be a difficult quality to find in this world of overgrown Peter Pans on the hunt for their own Mother figure—a person to handle all the less savory household duties, remind them to go to the doctor, praise them constantly, hinge their daily or long-term plans on what Pan wants or says he needs.This situation is different, because he already takes on that role for his child while still taking decent care of himself.Since single dads still have to, you know, fund their child, there isn't always a ton of extra dough to fund flippant outings to fancy cocktail bars or jump onto tubing trips you didn't even want to attend in the first place. " And in a more serious sense, it forces you to dissect immature impulses.It inspires you to be more mindful of your own spending habits. Like when you're running late to meet a friend because you're stuck in a child-stuffed lantern parade one town over, you're not allowed to bitch and force your S. to help you summon an Uber to pick you up, STAT—because he's too busy pushing the kid on a skateboard inside the festivities to indulge your princess agenda.He has developed a wisdom to help him identify the difference between the two, and if you haven't already done the same, hanging with him long enough will be educational.
I've never considered my income sizable until I started thinking of the glaring fact that I don't have to split it with anyone.As such—So when the kid asks, "Why are you wearing lipstick? It makes you take a more discerning look at this princess agenda and brainstorm ways to be more reasonable in general.I was playing with the kid at a playground near my boyfriend's apartment and when an authority figure from the attached daycare came out to ask if we had permission to be there, I immediately turned to the child. I'm supposed to answer here." I've always been a touch afraid of authority but knew I had to handle the current situation. Conversely, it means you can't let jealousy get to you with exes.I used to let envy blind me badly in the past—even if a boyfriend managed to remain congenial with an ex, the whole bond made me feel rattled as hell.Now that I'm with a person who's ex will be around in a close way forever and ever amen, I have to be OK with that. We can't let ourselves feel threatened for no viable reason.Of course my apartment is much cleaner—because I only have to account for me. I recognize I have some control freak tendencies, relationships included.