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You’ve moved out, gotten your own place, and you’re starting to think about moving on with your life.
Beyond these actions, dating can have an effect on any post-separation support you may receive.
I will give you one exception here: If he has separated from his wife eons ago, the divorce is moving along at a decent pace, and the divorce just isn’t done… I had stopped all communication with him except between lawyers. Even if you manage to keep the relationship going for a long period of time, even post their divorce being final, you have now ended up with a boyfriend who has yet to deal with anything. It’s exciting and interesting to look at who is out there. That’s how you proceed as healthy as possible with the next phase of your life. Each situation is different but I’ll say at least six months. I had taken (some) time to heal the best way one ever can and gain perspective first. But before you proceed, you’d better make sure that the end of the marriage is simply a signature away and nothing less. He needs time to address why his marriage ended, come to terms with his own culpability, help any children he has to come to terms with the end of his marriage, and to reconfigure his life. You may have been in a sad and lonely marriage and you are ready for your next step. And before you start dating, develop some boundaries for yourself. Their marriage hasn’t ended yet and you have no right whatsoever to insert yourself into the middle of their relationship even if he is inviting you to do so.Let the two of them muddle through the end of their relationship without your input, distraction, or presence. He may be telling you that their marriage has been dead for years, that she is evil and psychotic and crazy, that he was ready to move on for years, that they never had sex anymore, blah blah blah. You’re starting to notice other people when you go out and want someone to spend time with, someone who appreciates your company. While this may sound like a good idea, there are several problems to consider.
The best advice that you would get from your Raleigh divorce lawyer is simple—don’t do it.When it comes to the destruction of a family, keeping things as simple as possible is essential. Emotions are running high, there is so much raw pain, and untold confusion, trauma and turmoil going on. But for everyone else, seriously, it is imperative that we respect the institution of marriage. Most of us hope that our marriages will last forever. Simply put, dating married men is completely wrong.Knowing that it’s ending is sad and traumatic – as it should be. As such, you need to allow their marriage to end before you hop in. And try to justify it all you want, a recently separated guy is still married. Almost the worst kind of married– the one in the middle of a HUGE relationship crisis.Even if you did not begin dating someone until after the date of separation, a suspicious former spouse may see the new boyfriend or girlfriend as the cause of the marriage’s end and bring a court action.