To be clear, my boyfriend isn’t rich, but he’s picked up one important habit over the years: investing.
I have to admit it’s comforting to be in a serious relationship with someone who’s somewhat financially responsible (read: less impulsive).
While you figure out the math, let me be clear that I’ve met several other women in their early- to mid-20s who also prefer to date from a much older pool for various reasons.
I think I'm getting ahead of myself, so let me tell you how we met and start at the beginning.
I'm a dancer and during one of my team's performances, I landed badly. I felt my knee pop and felt an insane amount of pain.
One thing I’m incredibly grateful for is not having to deal with jealousy in my current relationship.
Sure, it occasionally happens, but my boyfriend understands that being in a codependent relationship leads to all sorts of trouble and that spending time apart sometimes is key.
This alone is a reason why I refuse to go back into the dating pool with guys my own age. When I’m out, the guys I seem to attract are generally in their mid- to late-30s. To find out why, I asked a straight twentysomething male friend, who pointed out that younger guys are simply intimidated.
After all, going up to a total stranger in a bar and making an impression isn’t easy, and it takes a certain amount of confidence, which often comes with age.When I tell people my boyfriend is much older than me I get the normal response of "How old is he?" Though, honestly, his age never mattered to me, what mattered to me was he was attractive, funny, and sweet.In general, there’s a stigma that a younger woman dates an older man because he’s more powerful and can essentially take care of her.And while that may be true for some, a 2010 study by the University of Dundee in Scotland found that as women become more financially independent, their taste may skew toward older (and better-looking) men. As a woman becomes more confident in her own career and finances, she seeks a partner who matches that, which often is not a 25-year-old guy.When I first met him our ages never crossed my mind.