He said I could meet his brother who is now separated. The relationship you shared with him 20 years ago would just be a distant memory in his mind; moreover he is in a steady relationship for the past 10 years so he’s “hooked up”.I said that I would feel too uncomfortable because of the past my friend and I had shared. Fair to say that he is not emotionally attached to you and only looks at you as friend presently.But if you have to do it, then we must examine your state of mind and conclude you certainly need to visit a psychiatric doctor.
It’s understandable that you are slightly uncomfortable about dating his brother but if you reason out logically, his brother and him are two different people altogether and you are making the connection purely in your mind.If he has no problems with the arrangement why should you have any discomfort with it?This is more true if your ex-boyfriend is a good judge of personalities.It’s much more advisable to date people you’ve known through a referral than to go in for “blind” ventures like internet dating.It’s been 20 years, so just put the thought out of your mind that you are dating the brother of your ex boyfriend.
Look at his brother as your prospective “date” and decide if you are compatible with him.If things work out well you guys can share a big happy family. It’s Friday and Wendy’s ready to start the weekend, but first answers After Show viewer Ask Wendy questions.My old friend will call me once or twice a month to see how I’m doing, and we will joke around on the phone only.The other day we were talking about internet dating and some losers on there. If he had a hang up he would never have suggested it in the first place.It’s not like you asked him about it, he was the one to suggest it.