It's like coming out all over again and I've experienced resistance against it.
It feels like you are mistrusted, that people think you have actively chosen to take the route of most privilege without considering the ways in which you are now held at the margins by the community you most identify with.
One of the reasons I waited so long was that as a fly-on-the-wall 'straight' woman, I heard so much bullshit against bi people from other queer folks that I felt completely unwelcome in the queer community. Now we understand one another.'" "I actually just came out to my youngest son a few weeks ago.
Just before I met my current dude (4.5 years and counting), I was trading messages with a gorgeous lady vegan baker.I know nothing is that simple, but it's kind of Frostian: Two roads diverged in a yellow wood — except the woods are full of various genitals." "I actually came out as bi only a few months ago, and last month married a man. On paper, I'm straight (I'm in a long-term relationship with a man) but I'm attracted to both men and women. I tried explaining this, but I was called 'selfish,' 'confused' and 'doing it for attention.' The worst part is that this person was a friend, and he laughed my words away, as though sexuality were set. I asked him if he liked tits, he said yes, and then I said, ' Well, so do I!In the past year, my younger son has started asking some really insightful questions about gender issues and sexual orientation (like, ' Why is sexual orientation defined only by what body part goes where? A couple of weeks ago, during one of our conversations, I knew I had an opportunity to share this facet of myself with him. ' It took him a long time to answer, and I said, ' You've never really thought about it, have you?' And he said, ' Since you're asking, I'm assuming the answer isn't straight.' We had a great conversation about what being bisexual means, perceptions of it in both straight and gay culture, and what it means for me personally.I realized that I was falling in love with one of my female friends (who is also bisexual).
I also started to realize that strict monogamy may not be the best idea for me.It can be freeing not to have to worry about people's negative reactions to even just seeing you with your partner.But on the other side of the coin, it makes me sad that I even need to hide or worry about these things." "I have avoided telling my queer friends that I am in a relationship with a man.Even with friends, I've faced microaggressions in the form of jokes: ' How does straightness feel?'" "I think the weirdest thing for me isn't the judgment of other people (since I just pass for straight), but the idea of what could have been.(It's one of those things that when you put the pieces together and suddenly you're like, Ohhhhhhhhh!