Responses like, “That must have been hard for you,” or “That’s a difficult situation,” are often likely to be well received.
If she asks for your input, it’s a good idea to suggest solutions in the form of a question: “Do you think you could…?
If she sees you using some basic manners and always trying to do the right thing, she’s more likely to be forgiving if you haven’t mastered other social skills. I made friends with girls in my high school classes who I could ask questions about what girls expected or would like.
If she says she’s busy and doesn’t offer an alternative, it’s best to back off.
If you wish, you can then wait a few days and ask her out again to a different event.
Dan Coulter of Coulter Video is an adult with Asperger Syndrome.
He sent out a list of his personal dating tips which I think are quite good.
If she changes the subject, try and talk about the new subject for a while.
Assume that a girl cares as much about her interests as you do yours and her opinions are just as valid.
It’s more likely to make her frustrated because you think you’re smart enough to solve a problem and that she couldn’t.
Especially if you assume you see the whole picture when you don’t.
You may want to disclose your Asperger Syndrome, but even if you don’t, you can always explain that you just don’t get something and ask for help figuring it out.
Consider joining a support group for teens or adults on the spectrum.
If she doesn’t accept your second offer and doesn’t suggest an alternative, she’s probably not interested.