We drove home in silence, and Chris remained silent even after we arrived home.
I saw to the supper for all of us, which made me even more unhappy and resentful.
Eventually I rang Chris at work, and to my astonishment he was still there long after I should have been collected.
It can also be dangerous, because the energy and focus necessary to sort things out when in an emotional state can also cause someone to be injured due to a reduced awareness of the physical world around them.In that state, a person could walk unaware into a dangerous area of town, walk out in front of a moving vehicle, or trip or fall.Chris arrived, and I hoped for an apology and some concern for how I felt physically and emotionally, but far from it.He seemed cross and I became more and more cross myself." The indicators that should have told him that the teasing was not OK, worked at such a slow pace, that his own delayed response becomes further feed for the bully, who sees it as a sign of weakness and/or stupidity.
Typically, it garners a laugh from the TV or movie audience, too.
Chris was supposed to pick me up in the afternoon from hospital after a minor operation for which I had had a general anaesthetic. Not only was I upset, but I grew increasingly embarrassed, as the nurse kept returning to see if I had at last been picked up.
Taking a taxi was not an alternative, because the hospital was insistent that I be accompanied on the journey home by a friend or relative.
He has subsequently said that saying sorry in such a situation is hopelessly inadequate, when of course saying nothing is so much worse.
And I know that, for me, a genuine 'Sorry' and gesture of affection goes a very long way.
The inefficient processing of emotion can be very draining - as the emotion temporarily takes over it can impede awareness and rational thought.