Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Please note...........these steps are only **suggested. She said that an addict will have one, and not stop at one.. the only thing that stoped her was the absence of alcahol, funds for it, or ability to stay awake. Another friend I met on this site can;t be around it at all.. Some people call it a psychological problem, some call it a disease.. When the drink comes before all else in my life, I call that insane. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. I simply believe that something bigger than me can help when I need help. This does not mean my life is a easy one either, it simply means I am able to cope with life on life's terms. From my best understanding thus far, no one really knows for sure what it is, or why it happens, or how to cure it. I did turn my life over to what I now call my Higher Power. We are not allowed to chat on these threads, so I will not direct this post to anyone. I have my life back, I do not feel sick anymore and I'm very happy. It shocked me to feel that lil life in me and I vowed not to drink anymore. The odd time I will have more but that is very rare for me. I can have more fun without it and I always remember where Ive been and what Ive done, lol. In our guidelines all that is required is that our Higher Power be kind, loving and greater than ourselves. P., because as a group they are much greater than yourself. Not at all trying to say that the way it is isn't helpful to so many people, just don't see how you could read the 12 steps, and not see it in a religious sense.... Is alcaholism a born-with-it disease that is genetic, heritable, or otherwise shared, or is it one that is created through lifestyle choices? Could someone who has never been a heavy drinker in their life become an alcaholic one year, say at some very "fluid" new years party? I like to know, for my own reasons, as well as for future reference in the case of other folk I meet ni my life who may be AA members, or should be.... Then we bought a nice little cottage rental resort at the Lake. I got 8 years of drinking in until I realized what I was doing. Well it baffled the shit out of me and completely blind-sided me. I quit cold turkey and didnt have another drink for a few years. I dont know but I was very much heading there, and fast. I never could understand why folks would drink to fall down and puke, yukkies... Actually, you and one other person is a power greater than yourself. This means we don't walk out of a meeting having full belief in anything, only that we MUST open our minds to the idea that there may be a H. Hello Rudy, other AA members: Good luck with the new thread! It was sneaky and way too powerful for me to break free of. His choice of profession seems preordained, as he speaks in fully formed paragraphs, his thoughts organized by topic sentences. started drinking at 15, when he and a friend experimented in his parents’ liquor cabinet.
He’s also a worrier—a big one—who for years used alcohol to soothe his anxiety. He favored gin and whiskey but drank whatever he thought his parents would miss the least.
I know Addiction of any kind is a touchy subject for many people... As for it being a disease, a allergy, or whatever, there are various opinions on that. We lost between 0,000-0.00 due to reckless drinking behaviour over the course of my marriage...... Unfortunately I come from a family of alcoholics (both parents and brothers) and it did kill a few in my family. Only because I was traised in the old ways, and so it works for me. It's kind of nice having my own way, and no-one can argue against it. Wouldn't you know I turned the wrong way on the 401 and nearly ended up in London before I could turn around. Kit if you see this, I almost just gave up and went right to your house.......heheheheeeeeeeee But I persevered and went backkkkkkkkk up the 401 to the Dutton turn-off. I believe myself it worked because I told the bare truth from the start.
I don;t want to step on anyone's toes....)And Just AStudent: I am sure we could take the existing 12 step, and modify it greatly to remove religious conotations, and make it "open". Just remember, it's the 1st drink that gets me drunk. I know tons of folks who can have 1 drink, and leave it alone. As for me, well maybe a couple of bottles might do it. It is recognized by the US and Canadian medical fields as an illness. When I was 18, married and pregnant with my first baby, I found out that my husband was using heavy drugs. I'm so glad I did as the meeting was a good one and a few old friends I hadn't seen in a while visited us there.
but for the most part, removing religious undertones is just a matter of perspective.. Believe in a door knob for all we care, or believe in the group as a whole.
Quite often, if you see religion in something, where there is no direct reference to God or Christianity in general, it is bacause of your upbringing (mine is the same - I see religon in everything, and it's hard to just ignore it.. Just as long as you have a Higher Power that helps you to stay sober. There are open meetings, attend them and see for yourself. One of the biggest Myths, is this pre-conceived false belief by outsiders who do not understand.
Even when someone says somethign as innocent as "God didn;t want you to be in that car" it gets under my skin. Heck I turn my stuff over to whatever all the time. Although I have to say, in Arkansas with a church on every corner, in the Bible Belt......it is pretty scary there.