But for relationship expert Rachel De Alto, the old rule is pretty helpful in determining suitable age differences.
They’ve lived their lives, matured a lot, and are beginning to think of college.Now think, however painful this might be, of why someone significantly older than you wants to take you out, someone fresh out of junior high.“Socially speaking in the western world, women have been granted liberty to unite with men five to 15 years older without anyone batting an eye.Conversely, when a man chooses an older mate he’s apt to encounter judgement and discrimination,” Winter told us.Yes, with someone who is at the exact same ‘place’ as you. If you are a ninth-grader, dating a tenth-grader is cool.
I think you should be very wary, however, of dating anyone older than 16.
Can you confidently put yourself into that position?
Now, if someone 14 or 15 or 16 asks you to go to a movie or to hang out at lunch, or to make out behind the bleachers, I say go for it so long as you both know what you’re in for.
Try it at whatever age you like, and you will find it works very well, taking for granted all the while that, after all, a man as well as a woman is the age that he looks and feels.” Diminishing his credibility, in the next paragraph, O’Rell gives readers the advice: “Never marry a woman richer than you, or one taller than you, or one older than you.” So despite the approval and support from De Alto, the rule originally repeated by O’Rell seems significantly outdated - in real life, but especially in the anything-goes world of celebrity dating.
While some beliefs may stand the test of time, this old-fashioned dating rule doesn’t appear to be one of them.
As for why she thinks the equation has endured for so long, Winter said, “There's no logical reason for this to be a ‘rule.’ Nor does this mathematical equation determine the 'optimal age gap.'” “However, you might note that the gap is larger than one would imagine.