When you start exchanging messages, the fantasies grow.If you’re still anonymous, the situation probably isn’t dangerous, but you may still feel uncomfortable.
Here are the Internet-appropriate ways to say no: Note that Internet dating sites vary in the sophistication of their features.
On some sites, the person knowsthat you received his or her e-mail and read it.
Granted, for some people, a more heavy-handed approach is necessary. Polite is good, but if it doesn’t work, try sterner and firmer. If you need further coaching, go to your local electric company’s customer service department and see how it handles you when you try to dispute a bill by saying, “I never used that electricity.” Many appropriate ways are available to encourage someone to move along. This article points out the major ways to do so in specific situations.
Say that you get an e-mail from someone, and you can tell immediately that you have no interest in communicating with that person.
When someone just won’t quit bothering you and all else fails, you have to dispense with being polite.
Just as dogs get only one bite (actually, they don’t get any free bites), your discouraged suitor gets only one “apology” from you. The following line is pretty darn effective but only use it as a last resort:“You need to know that if you attempt to contact me again, I’ll report your activities as an abuse to the dating site.
The site will then begin to monitor all your e-mail messages and kick you off the system if it doesn’t like what you’re writing.” Afterward, break off the communication.
From then on, your approach is no reply, no comment, no nothing. If you think you have a problem prospect, even if you’re anonymous, don’t feel uncomfortable reporting the situation to the site operator (usually under abuse or Webmaster).
You need to know how to dish out rejection in an appropriate way.
As with real life, you must do it quickly — and with a modicum of kindness, if possible.
If a former prospect is dogging you, but not seriously enough to report him or her as an abuse, on some sites, you can search in Invisible or Stealth mode.