Which is what is happening with a friend from work.She's a very young 21, at Uni, likes to drink, party, mess around and have lots of relationships. He's a mature 40, owns his own houses and runs his brothers very successful electronics business. AIBU to think its a bit odd for an older guy to be wanting a relationship with such a younger woman?But although it's clearly not a popular viewpoint on here I also believe there is something not quite right with men of that age who deliberately seek out relationships with women who have only been adults for a couple of years.
From a "having fun" POV, it doesn't matter what the age gap is, what counts is that it is a non abusive/using/controlling relationship. We have been together for 14 years and married for 12.
I had fun with men in their 20's, whilst happily single, no harm done. Age IME has nothing to do with how sucessful a relationship will be.
I contend that as long as nobody is being willfully creepy (I see you, guys in Ferrari hats), this kind of limitation is mega lame.
I know many smoking-hot middle-aged people who are emotional teenagers.
One of my best friends has a similar age gap with her DH - think they were 25 and 44 when they got together, now happily married for three years and expecting their 2nd child. I'm 28 and all my boyfriends bar one have been in their 40's.
It was the one the same age as me who was the abusive wanker.
I know many brilliant, mature people who aren’t old enough to rent a car.
From a sexual attraction standpoint, I challenge you to stand me shirtless next to Sophia Loren in Look, Steely Dan probably couldn’t talk at all to "Hey Nineteen" because they admittedly had "nothing in common." Not because she was too young to name an Aretha Franklin song (which, like, come ON, Steely Dan); the idea that people are what pop culture references they know reduces falling in love to trading trivia. A lot of women have told me they won’t date younger men because of maturity issues, and that’s probably where the idea of a prohibitive "age gap" comes into play for a lot of people.
NOTE: I would never interfere and am not saying they SHOULDN'T date, just that I find it uncomfortable for some reason.
I am asking what people think not for a lecture on whether I should be judging I don't think it's outrageous at all.
It is up to you to be mutually happy with the person you date.