This validation seeking can go on for a long, long time.
Getting over a relationship with a Narcissist is a much different kettle of fish.Depending upon the duration, the impact of such a union could have profound emotional, psychological, spiritual, physical and even financial effects on its victims.Their sense of self-esteem and self-worth will have been virtually annihilated. Being free of such a monster should be considered a blessing, but what often happens, after prolonged exposure to this type of abuse, is that many will actually pine and grieve for the return of their tormentor.They have come to believe that love equals pain and that they are deserving of this type of treatment.They will go to great lengths to isolate you from friends, family and other sources of support.
Once a relationship with a Narcissist ends, most victims are left with the enormous task of weaving through all the lies and the abuse and building themselves back up.Realizing that you were lied to, duped, conned and manipulated all along, is enough to send even a saint into a psychotic rage. This kind of emotional torture is exasperated by the Narcissists hot and cold routine.I think the hardest thing to get over is the deliberate mind fuck, the psychological warfare that the Narcissist uses to keep his victims emotionally invested in him. The mixed signals of I love you one day and hate you the next, has women and men not only questioning their sanity, but their sense of self-worth as well.Some are nasty, some are amicable and some are mutual.But they generally follow the same pattern – relationship ends, one or both parties grieve and then move on.Narcissists are generally angry, miserable people and they love to project their misery onto those closest to them. They are pathological liars and will lie about even the most insignificant things.